Pre Long distance relationship phase
Hello people. I am going abroad for my future studies. I have been dating since 4 years but never felt so sad and didnt realised that how much i love my partner. I am leaving this place in 20 days. Me and my gf are little bit scared about the situation that we will be facing a few days later. We all have heard that long distance relationships(LDR) are really hard to maintain. The main reasons behind its failure are insecurities, lack of trust , constant fights and not being physically present to console your partner as you used to do everytime when she was worried and needed you.
We currently live in the same city and we meet almost daily. She tells me about everything that happens and hears the same from me. We are habitual of telling each other every single thing that happens in our day to day routine. Whenever she gets angry at me or she is facing some problem i meet her and talk to her in person and she feels better in just 5 mins.
But this is not going to happen when i will be leaving and she will be left alone here. You would be thinking that am i the only person here for her , the answer is no i am not the only person available here but she finds peace after talking with me only. I am very tensed about how she is going to live here all alone wothout me. We live in the city of food and we have explored this city together. We have covered almost every place here, with whom will she visit those places when i am gone. This is really a big issue for me. I try to meet her more and more now and as soon as we are together in the evenings i totally forget that i will be leaving in a few days. This LDR thing strikes me as a reach home after meeting her when a see a hell lot of stuff that needs to be packed.
I think my partner is more concerned about my relationship may be because she is a girl as you know boys dont take too much load. So before a couple of days we were discussing about these issues and how to deal with them so we started making a list of expectations that we have from each other and also the future expectations that we will be having during our LDR. We peomised each other that no matter what we will be directly telling each other why we are angry and what we didnt like that our partner did .She also made some rules like i have to take out atleast half an hour for video calling with her everyday. And she came up with the idea that we have to write anything every sunday for each other on a secret group page on fb turn by turn. The best rule is to not get angry without knowing the other persons situation that we used to do here . Almost everytime she gets angry without knowing my side of the issue and i have to make her understand my point which ultimately have no effect on her and it ends on sorry from my side .There is a long list of rules properly explained by her to me for our relation to work.
I am sure like the others that our relationship is going to work but i dont want to be overconfident about it so i told her about all my expectations from her when i will be away and she told me that if my interest goes away from her and i get diverted to some other girl i have to tell the truth to her without hesitating. I know this aint going to happen but she has a fear of losing me from day 1 of our relationship .
I hope our ideas of making rules and promises will be successful and make our bond more stronger and the relationship better. Relationships are really hard to maintain but we should not compare others relationship with ours. Every relationship is one of its kind. Every human is different by heart . I think we should trust our partner and shower all the love on her even more than what is possible. And the the long distance relationship will work out pretty easily.
-Thanks for reading
We currently live in the same city and we meet almost daily. She tells me about everything that happens and hears the same from me. We are habitual of telling each other every single thing that happens in our day to day routine. Whenever she gets angry at me or she is facing some problem i meet her and talk to her in person and she feels better in just 5 mins.
But this is not going to happen when i will be leaving and she will be left alone here. You would be thinking that am i the only person here for her , the answer is no i am not the only person available here but she finds peace after talking with me only. I am very tensed about how she is going to live here all alone wothout me. We live in the city of food and we have explored this city together. We have covered almost every place here, with whom will she visit those places when i am gone. This is really a big issue for me. I try to meet her more and more now and as soon as we are together in the evenings i totally forget that i will be leaving in a few days. This LDR thing strikes me as a reach home after meeting her when a see a hell lot of stuff that needs to be packed.
I think my partner is more concerned about my relationship may be because she is a girl as you know boys dont take too much load. So before a couple of days we were discussing about these issues and how to deal with them so we started making a list of expectations that we have from each other and also the future expectations that we will be having during our LDR. We peomised each other that no matter what we will be directly telling each other why we are angry and what we didnt like that our partner did .She also made some rules like i have to take out atleast half an hour for video calling with her everyday. And she came up with the idea that we have to write anything every sunday for each other on a secret group page on fb turn by turn. The best rule is to not get angry without knowing the other persons situation that we used to do here . Almost everytime she gets angry without knowing my side of the issue and i have to make her understand my point which ultimately have no effect on her and it ends on sorry from my side .There is a long list of rules properly explained by her to me for our relation to work.
I am sure like the others that our relationship is going to work but i dont want to be overconfident about it so i told her about all my expectations from her when i will be away and she told me that if my interest goes away from her and i get diverted to some other girl i have to tell the truth to her without hesitating. I know this aint going to happen but she has a fear of losing me from day 1 of our relationship .
I hope our ideas of making rules and promises will be successful and make our bond more stronger and the relationship better. Relationships are really hard to maintain but we should not compare others relationship with ours. Every relationship is one of its kind. Every human is different by heart . I think we should trust our partner and shower all the love on her even more than what is possible. And the the long distance relationship will work out pretty easily.
-Thanks for reading
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